Social Interaction

What is your view on social interaction?

What is a social interaction to you. I think it's key to make it simple. To have a main focus. To find a social role for you. To have a social role that is healthy - not for you, but for the both of you; where you take responsibility to provide what the other person needs, emotionally, to feel good if he/she isn't feeling tip top.

It's time for you to go travel alone if you haven't, or at least to another country - where the native tounge isn't your native tounge - for an extended period of time. Why? Because that will tell you what a social interaction is.

I would you like to say, that when I mention having a role socially that is something playful - not taken super seriously, and something that you can change to what is better for the social interaction at hand. You can, in other words, jump from one social role to another. How did come to think like this? Well, my travels to Tokyo and France have definitely helped me - get down to that core level necessary; core level of communication. I have found that talking to another person really isn't that big a deal, that all it takes for it to be cool, interesting or fun is just that you two smile - or not that either, but that you just accept each other. It's all good. Be flexible like this, and it will be good.

What do you think changes? Well, you will see communication for what it is - stripped of everything superficial. I went to a wine yard in France, to pick grapes, last September. I was there with my sister, who of course speaks swedish like me - but the rest were ten or so polish people and the two owners of the yard. This really opened my mind - to how much a smile means, how much it can carry, and really how much you have in common, and can show you have in common, without understanding a word of what the other person says. It's pretty magnificent.

You will really find the value of a friend - that friends are yours to have only if you value them enough to care for them. You will learn to appreciate people, as in this place your superficial associations are naturally not awoken. How? Because you are speaking another language... english I think sounds cool, and have associated to cool movies and cool things overall - whereas swedish I have associated to all kinds of things; everytime I have ever been nervous, for example, I have associated to swedish. Of course speaking english makes me feel cooler, and makes me more open.And this is of course good, as long as you don't make a thing out of it; meaning depend on that shit, on that feeling.

This is good... but what about if you don't use a language at all..? I didn't with the polish people - we used our body language. We went down to the core of communication - with no distraction. Very interesting. You don't express happiness through words - you do through your face and body. You also make people happy through your face and body, not words. Through body language - a genuine smile, or you, naturally, leaning back which signals you are comfortable with yourself which makes people feel secure. That sounds like signs of having a healthy, good role to have huh..?

So, what is a social interaction? It's what you make it, obviously. And you will make it right if your main priority is to care about the other person. Even if that person is a "stranger", or doesn't speak your language... Empathy and love breaks all barriers, including those of language.

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